Steve Irsay, LPC

How bad is it?

Most people — guys especially — don’t find themselves at a place like this until something has gotten bad.

Usually, something pretty important.

Relationship troubles. Work stress. Loneliness. Health problems.

Mind, body, love life, livelihood…

Something is seriously threatened.

That’s usually what it takes because men tend to be survivors. We’re bootstrappers who pride ourselves on self-determination and fixing things — especially our own problems.

Ironically, a lot of our attempted “fixes” turn into issues.

Even if you have not noticed it yourself, chances are someone close to you has. They might have even mentioned it to you.

“How much have you had to drink?” … “Why are you so pissed off all the time?” … “You’re always working. I never see you.” … “Stop staring at your phone!” … “Did you get any sleep last night?” … “You should really talk to someone…” “I’m leaving…”

Getting help is heroic.

Maybe one of those comments was the dagger that finally pierced your tin foil armor of stock answers like “It’s no big deal” and “I’m good” and “Things are fine.”

Maybe it is a big deal. And you’re not really “good” or “fine.”

The good news is, we can team up to take it on.

Men’s mental health is my specialty. This includes engaging men in effective couples therapy to build stronger marriages and families.

It is a finely tuned blend of art and science meant to move past our guy barriers like pride, stubbornness, and embarrassment.

It gets to the core of who we are and how we want to live — for ourselves and, especially, for the people and things we love.

You’re here because you want better

I believe the heart of therapy, counseling, and coaching is about unlocking the natural powers of human growth and healing.

Like seeds that are planted. Given the right conditions — proper light, enough water — they just “know” what to do.

You don’t need to stand in your yard and scream at the seeds“Grow, damn it, grow!”

Together, we can co-create those growth conditions for you. And the driving force of this process is truth.

The truth about who you really are, what you really want, and how to really make it happen.

This is real men’s work.